On the other hand it is a real time of responsibility for parents. It is a time where parents have to play multiple roles of a father or mother, companion, guide, mentor, friend and above all a person whom they can look up to and feel secured. Along with the children the parents undergo many emotions___ Love, affection, caring, pride, anger, frustration and insecurity. It is difficult time for sure. It is like working for Master’s degree in parenting. The best part is all the parents love their children and want to give them the best. It is a phase in which assumption about your child doesn’t work. You have to understand self and understand your teen for successful parenting.
Teach the importance of accepting limits and the importance of thinking before acting. The behaviour of teen also depends upon the culture of the family and upbringing.
Understanding self includes your belief, thought process, behaviour (responding and reactions) acceptance level and expectancy level and the insecurities faced during your teenage years. Understanding teens is very important as they increase their independence from parents. For understanding your teen few things should be understood. This is the period of stress and storm for them. Peer pressure, pressure of parents, school and self, sometimes difficult to handle. They seek for their own identity__Who am I? They are trying to leave their childhood behind and grow into young adults. They start to think who they are, and try to find the answers. Much of their confusing behaviour is the result of their attempts to develop their identity.
In fact the teens need more attention from their parents. This is the time they need their parents to meet their mental and emotional needs the most. At times they seem rebellious but they are building their own beliefs and values. They want their parents to listen to their opinions without judging. Accepting and encouraging the teens help them to be confident individuals. They feel secure to discuss their issues when they know that their parents accept them and are there to guide them. Parents always provide their children good school, proper tutorials, university and almost all the books and accessories needed. Their only motto is to help their children to move forward and be successful.
The fathers are ready to spend money and the mothers are ready to spend time. Few things should be taken care while nurturing the teens. Negative remarks and comparison can actually promote the behaviour you fear the most. Parents wind up to be more anxious and less confident with their own children when they read too many books on parenting and where the recommendation in the book and their personal style don’t fit. Be clear about what matters most to you and your family. It is important to provide them safe and loving home environment, create an atmosphere of honesty, mutual trust and respect. Allow age appropriate independence and assertiveness.
Develop a relationship that encourages your child to talk to you. Teach responsibilities for their belongings and yours and of basic household chores. Teach the importance of accepting limits and the importance of thinking before acting. The behaviour of teen also depends upon the culture of the family and upbringing. Parenting teens is a big responsibility and fun as well. Parents and their teens can be best of the friends if worked on the relationship.
Please note: This blog contains general information about parenting teens, understanding them and the process. Each teen is unique with his own set of challenges and the parents with their own parenting style.
