Relation is always with two or more people so it is always dealing with self and others at the same time in a particular situation. Relationship has two versions – Maintaining relation and mutual relation. It is always seen that people work too hard and most of the time to maintain relationship and are in stress and unable to enjoy relationship. The need is to work on mutual relationship with all love and respect and not out of expectation and demand.
Relationship is all about love and care and everyone wants to fulfill the expectations of their near and dear ones and all the time work for that.
Some of the factors contributing to beautiful and harmonious relationship are as follows:
Acceptance – It is the biggest hard work as accepting the people the way they are is a challenge as everyone has their own set of formats for the people which is somehow not possible for them to fit in. It is always beneficial to accept people the way they are as it shows respect which everyone needs. Once your acceptance level is high you don’t have any ego issues. You don’t blame or accuse anybody but there is mutual understanding and cooperation.
Trust – Trust is most required factor in any relation. The relation is everlasting if there is trust. Acceptance leads to trust. Trust building should be done with love and compassion.
Understanding – Understanding is not just understanding the people around you all the time, it helps but again you understand people as per your perceptions. Here comes the need to understand self so as to view your perceptions how fair they are. Relationship blossoms with understanding self and others.
Adjustment – It is important to understand that adjustment is different from compromise. Compromise leads to frustration where as adjustment leads to giving happiness as it is done willingly because you value the relation more than your personal wishes. When you adjust you are helping others to fulfill their desires and needs which in itself is a satisfactory feeling.
Love – Love is the most essential flavor of relationship. On a little higher level if the love is unconditional the relationship is happy, harmonious and peace giving. It is always giving in relationship and when that is done you get more than you have thought, it may be matter of time but the reward is very fulfilling. Humans play multiple roles in their lifetime. It should be taken care that the roles don’t overlap so that mix match doesn’t stop the supply of love to each one in your life. It is a thought process and once you develop things become easy and joyful.
Expectancy – It is very natural on the part of humans to attach expectancy to the relations. Relationship of any kind has expectancy from the other side which is always desired to be fulfilled. Let us diversify into expectancy from self and expectancy from others. It is a general notion that when you are in any relationship people has to do certain things, the demand and the intensity varies from person to person. It is important to understand that both the people have expectancy from each other but how far it is reasonable and logical. It always feels good to fulfill the expectations of our loved ones and most of the time it is done. It should be taken into consideration that expectancy should not be too high that it becomes an emotional burden. It is preferable to check before you feel like expecting something such as:
Is it needed?
Is it affordable?
Is it going to make both of you happy?
Is it just for the sake of testing that the person values you?
Relationship is all about love and care and everyone wants to fulfill the expectations of their near and dear ones and all the time work for that.
It should be take care that expectations are always reasonable and logical to enjoy the relationship.
Relationship with the people in your life is a force that navigates your life. Disturbed relationship steals away all the happiness, peace and energy where as harmonious relationship gives all the energy, positivity, peace and happiness. It is the hidden driving force for the kind of life you live.
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