Few questions when answered help to fulfill this desire.
Which phase of life you like to be in?
Where you spend most of the time?
Where you should spend most of your time?
You live in present but slipping into the past is common and day dreaming of the future is comfortable and enjoyed.
Past is gone, future is yet to come present is here and now which gives the result and the life you want at the same time it designs your future. Revisiting the past and going to the future can be resourceful also. Sweet memories of past is energizer and aspiration for beautiful future is motivation.
To make present more result oriented and satisfactory you require vision, goals, clarity, courage, discipline, self discipline, time management, hard and smart work and good health.
Present has all the power to design the future so it should be utilized very efficiently. Managing time, resources and health gives good and satisfactory results. Planning, organizing and getting action oriented is utmost necessary in present when slipping to the past is common and day dreaming of the future becomes frequent. Present phase of the life has much to offer in fact it makes the life balance and fruitful so should be lived very cautiously. It should also have fun and recreation along with work so as to enjoy life and gather the memories which are energizer later on. All the three phases of life are very important and play a big role for happy and meaningful life. It is a fact past has played a big role in furnishing you what you are today and aspiration of future helps you to design your present. Living in present has its own beauty. Few reasons that don’t allow you to live in present are:
Need to belong to the society – People have a strong need to belong to the society which has set certain parameters that define your happiness and success. To fit in that either you brag about your past how happy and successful you were or you get engrossed in achieving those for future and miss to live in present. The worries and insecurity of not having it makes the life miserable. When the present is lived with full maturity, hard work and sensibly things are in places.
Loving the comfort zone – Humans are lazy by nature and love to be in comfort zone till it becomes necessary to come out of it. It is very comfortable to live in past where you don’t have to work just ponder on the memories that gives a good feeling and happiness. Most of the time people go back to their past. Future is a fairy land where things are rosy and you feel you will have fun and enjoy life or there is insecurity about future so most of the time is spent in thinking about the future.
Insecurity – In this fast moving and so called competitive world there is insecurity all around. People think more about losing rather than gaining. Worries and insecurity steals all the energy and time of the present and thus results are delayed and not achieved at times.
Lack of clarity, goals and vision – Sometimes the influence of friends, family and people around do not allow the person to connect to self and acquire clarity of what they want in their life. As a result they judge themselves on past experiences and achievements of people around and spend most of their time in analyzing.
In spite of all this living in the present is possible. It is possible to overcome all these barriers once you connect to yourself. Living in present is a choice with determination.