With the development and modernization which is the need, the society has seen many changes. Equality of gender has opened up many fields and roles for each of them. This is a welcome step. It is seen that each individual is upgrading self with education, skill development and an aspiration to work and be self sufficient. The society is changing as a whole. The thoughts, beliefs, attitude and work ethics have changed dramatically. This has given rise to standard of living of the people. People have started enjoying the freedom which is achieved by being self sufficient. This gives a rosy picture of the society. It gives happiness and satisfaction. The area of concern is to see whether this is consistent. The need is to understand the cost we pay for this. Along with transformation it is important to understand that what price you pay to achieve this and enjoy this. Transformation is a process where you just want to change and grow. It is exciting and tempting at times. On the process most basic things are overlooked and ignored unknowingly. Most of the times the basics in life are undervalued and the importance of those are not understood. Transformation has a great speed you start doing what you want and wish to do and overcome your blockages. It is a beautiful feeling a sort of achievement. To enjoy this you need to understand few things. It is good to know before you enter your married life.
Marriage is a beautiful bond with lifetime commitment. You love and respect your partner. Once was a time when you wanted to fulfill your aspiration, work and live your life. After marriage you are the partner of your spouse in fulfilling their aspirations and wishes. The challenge is limited time. One cannot deny the ultimate goal is to enjoy life which needs balance. It is a welcome step that both husband and wife help each other in all possible ways. Wife is becoming professional and husband helps her in household chores. The need here is to understand the biological design of each one of them. Men have been the provider since ages. They are designed to work accordingly. They have the skills, intelligence and work style which make them successful provider. On the other hand they have to develop the art to participate in household chores which takes time and effort. Moreover the social norm that men don’t do household chores needs to be redefined. Women on the other hand are gatherers who use to run the house and keep everything gathered whether things or family. They are biologically designed to do so and have all the skills, intelligence and work style needed for it. Moving to the professional ground needs some more skills to be developed which again takes time. On the process it happens that men and women start doing their secondary job which they have adopted and feel successful and unknowingly neglect their primary role. It may happen that they are not neglecting but unable to perform efficiently. The reason may be lack of time and energy. The need is to understand it is very important for the wife and husband to play the primary role as that is the basic requirement for marriage and profound relationship. The primary role is easy to perform as you are biologically designed that way. Adopting the secondary role of profession and household chores is necessity in today’s world. It is win – win situation for both. The beauty is you can only enjoy your secondary role when you stick to your basics and perform your primary role. It always gives satisfaction and there is no guilt. It is important to sit together plan the schedule, activities and responsibilities. It is very natural to count and make your partner count the work you do as you have taken additional responsibilities. In long run it becomes the reason of conflict which should be taken care of. The invitation is to acknowledge and appreciate the work that your partner does. Both wife and husband put their 100% in this era to live the life they desire. You work hard and are paying a big price to live a life you desire so it should be taken care that you enjoy the process and the result. It is only possible when you accept, love and respect each other.
